How Can I Get Back My Ex Boyfriend After Breakup
Introduction: Attention, Problem, Promise
Have you recently lost your boyfriend? And do you get teary eyed every day remembering that one person?
The loneliness, the memories, the emptiness in your heart… says a lot. How Can I Get Back My Ex Boyfriend
Problem:
The hardest thing after a breakup is forgetting the person you loved so much. But what if you feel that the relationship shouldn’t have ended? That he can be brought back?
Promise:
In this article, we will talk about some simple, easy and heart touching ways to bring your ex boyfriend back in your life – without making too much effort.
Author: Arjun Shastri – Relationship Counselor and Love Affairs Expert
Ask yourself – Do you really want him back?
When we are heartbroken, we just think of getting back the one who left us. But wait a minute – did you ask yourself if that person is really right for you?
Introspect:
Was your relationship full of love or was it just a habit?
Are you running away from loneliness or are you really incomplete without him?
Was he honest with you?
Many times we want to get back into a relationship after a breakup just because we can’t bear the emptiness. But it is important to understand that getting someone back is only worth it if there is still something left between the two of you.
Solution:
Spend some time with yourself. Look at things clearly. If even then your heart says “I want him”, then only move on.
Stop being in touch – but not immediately
The biggest mistake most people make is that they immediately start the game of call, message, block-unblock after a breakup. This can make the other person feel that you are weak.
Use the PAA Formula – Pain, Agitate, Alleviate
Pain: Sending questions like “Why did you leave me?” will only increase your pain.
Agitate: Calling him again and again will only push him further away.
Alleviate: Be completely calm. Adopt a no contact rule.
Why is the no contact rule necessary?
The other person feels your absence.
You get time to compose yourself.
It shows that you are emotionally strong.
Do not contact for at least 21-30 days. Meanwhile, focus on yourself.
Improve yourself – from inside and outside
Now is the time to rediscover yourself. And yes, it is not just about looks.
How to improve from within?
Do meditation and yoga. Calm your mind.
Learn new things. A course, a new language, a new skill.
Write down your feelings in a diary.
External changes:
Groom yourself. Get a haircut, try a new dress.
Show yourself as positive and happy on social media – but don’t overdo it.
When you improve yourself, you not only shine for yourself but also attract his attention.
Because confidence is the biggest attraction.
Understand the mistakes of the past relationship – and accept them
Every relationship teaches something. But only when we try to understand it.
Don’t repeat the mistakes:
Were you too possessive?
Did you fight over small things?
Did you not take his words seriously?
Importance of communication:
Breakdown of communication in a relationship is the biggest reason for distance. Next time, if you get a chance, make communication the basis.
Understanding mistakes and thinking of correcting them is a mature thinking. And maybe this thinking will attract him towards you again.
Ask for a chance – at the right time and in the right way
Now that you have transformed yourself and are ready with the right mindset, it’s time to approach.
How to approach?
Send a simple, emotional message:
“I know things went wrong. But if you want, we can sit down and talk for once. Just talk.”
What not to do:
Don’t blame.
Don’t say things like, “I can’t live without you.”
Avoid being overly emotional.
A calm, mature and sensible message often reaches the heart.
Bring up old memories – but slowly
Once you have started talking again, it’s time to rekindle that connection. But remember, this is not a magic wand, but a slow journey of connecting from the heart.
The power of old memories:
The first date, the laughter, the little things – remind him of them all.
But not forcefully. For example, in a casual chat, you can say,
“Remember when we went to that little cafe and that song was playing?”
Evoke emotions:
Humans are driven by emotions, not logic.
When you bring up those old happy feelings, he will automatically think – “Did I miss something?”
Remember:
The purpose of reminding him of old memories is not to embarrass him, but to gently touch his emotions.
Start with friendship – slowly rebuild the relationship
Many people want to fix a broken relationship immediately. But the truth is that rebuilding relationships takes time.
Behave like a friend:
Give him time and show him that you are not the same person you were before.
Listen to him, understand him, and be considerate of his needs.
Build intimacy slowly:
Text him, but not too often.
Share something he likes once in a while.
Don’t force the relationship:
If he is happy with friendship right now, keep it that way.
In time, if the love between you two is still there, it will come out on its own.
Friendship is the strongest foundation of a relationship.
Be emotionally strong – for yourself, not just for him
Remember, this is not just a journey to get him, but also to find yourself again.
Why is emotional strength important?
A strong person can handle any relationship.
Don’t feel weak, but look at yourself with pride.
How to become strong?
Remind yourself again and again that you are worthy of love.
Rebuild your self-esteem.
Give yourself the respect you deserve.
A strong, self-reliant and happy woman not only grooms herself, but also makes her ex think “What did I lose?”
Even if he doesn’t come back – hold on to yourself
Not every attempt ends the way we want it to. He may not come back, or he may have moved on.
What to do in this situation?
Accept that you tried your best.
Start a new chapter of your life.
Treat yourself with love and respect.
A new beginning:
Maybe the breakup happened to make you a better person.
And maybe, somewhere, there is someone who will truly appreciate you.
Sometimes, relationships are just meant to teach us something—and that learning leads us to true love.
Prepare for the future—never forget yourself
The true relationship you have is with yourself first.
How to love yourself?
Listen to your heart, not others.
Do what makes you happy.
Take some time for yourself every day.
How to prepare for the next relationship?
Learn from past experiences.
Know your likes and dislikes.
Know what you want in a relationship.
You can’t give true love to anyone else unless you love yourself completely.
Talk from the heart – for one last try
If you feel that now is the time to talk openly once again, then do not hold back. But this should not be just for ‘getting him back’, but for your own satisfaction.
How to talk from the heart?
Meet face to face in a calm environment or do a video call.
Speak your mind honestly and politely.
Listen to him too, do not interrupt.
While talking, keep in mind:
Do not repeat old fights.
Keep your emotions under control.
Do not impose a decision, respect the other person’s wish.
Sometimes a frank, heartfelt talk does what months of effort cannot.
Restarting the relationship – with new terms and new thinking
If everything went well and he is ready to come back, then remember – this is not the same old relationship. It’s a new relationship now, with new rules.
How to start a new relationship?
Set clear boundaries.
Always keep the communication open.
Respect each other’s feelings.
What to keep in mind:
Don’t repeat the same mistakes that were made before.
Stop doubting each other every time.
Give each other space.
Love is a beautiful bond between two people, but it takes a little effort every day to keep it alive.
Be proud of yourself – no matter what the result
What you did throughout this journey was not easy. Changing yourself, questioning yourself, and trying from the heart – all this can only be done by a strong person.
Appreciate your journey:
You made yourself better.
You listened to your heart.
You tried despite the fear.
Whether he came back or not, you won – because you made a true relationship with yourself.
Be an inspiration to others – share your experience
Your experience can be a light for someone else. Be it your friend, sister, or anyone else.
How to help?
Write down your experience, start a blog.
Share it on social media.
Tell people who are going through the same pain.
When you help others, your pain gets a purpose.
Love never ends – it just changes the path
Every relationship comes to teach something. And true love never ends – it returns in some form or the other.
Sometimes it comes for itself.
Sometimes it makes way for someone new.
And sometimes it makes you a better person.
Conclusion:
Getting your ex boyfriend back after a breakup is not easy, but it is not impossible either. If you make a change with all your heart, understand yourself, and be patient – he will either come back, or you will move on to a new light.
True love never fails – it either unites two people or makes them better.
FAQs
- Does the no-contact rule really work?
Yes, it creates the necessary distance between you and your ex, giving both of you time to think.
- Should I say “I love you” straight away and talk about getting back together?
No, first understand the relationship, start with a conversation, then express your feelings.
- What should I expect if he is with someone else?
No, it is better to focus on yourself and try to move on.
- Is ignoring your ex the right way to go?
If the relationship has been toxic, it is better to ignore.
- Can love be restored after a breakup?
Yes, if both the people make a change with sincerity and start afresh.
