How To Bring Back Lost Love Back In A Relationship

Friends, I want to share a small story with you. A few years ago, I had a very close friend who was in a long-term relationship with his girlfriend. In the beginning, everything seemed filmy – talks, laughter, secret meetings. But gradually their conversations started decreasing, small things turned into big fights and one day both of them separated in silence.

That friend said to me – “Yaar, love is still there, but where has that feeling gone?” That day I understood that losing love in relationships is a common thing, but it is not impossible to bring it back.

Has this happened to you too? Ever felt that the relationship is there but the earlier sparkle in it has disappeared? If yes, then you are not alone. And today we will talk about how to bring back that lost love.

First of all, ask yourself a question – is love really lost?

Often we feel that the relationship has cooled down, but the truth is that we ourselves have changed. Think about it, when you started, a small message tone would make you smile. Now the same messages come, but you just play a scene and let it go.

Losing love is not always the truth, sometimes it is just the effect of fatigue, stress and lifestyle. If you feel that love has disappeared, first ask yourself –

• Do I still respect that person?
• Can I imagine my life without him/her?
• Am I keeping distance just because of anger or hurt?

When you answer these questions from your heart, then you will understand that the love is still there, only the dust has settled.

Open communication – Oxygen of relationship

I know, you must be tired of hearing “you should talk”. But believe me, this is the real cure. Many times we think, “If I tell my feelings, they will misunderstand.” But silence always gives birth to misunderstanding.

Think about it, when you remain silent, the other person makes assumptions, and the assumptions often turn out to be wrong. Why not speak directly?

While talking, keep in mind:

• Do not accuse. Instead of saying “You always do this”, say “I feel this way.”
• Do not look at the phone in between. Talk while looking into the eyes.
• Take a break when you are angry. Drink tea or water and then sit again.

Believe me, many relationships shine again just with an honest conversation.

Start with small things

Do you remember when you first gifted them chocolates or said “I love you” without any reason? Love grows from those small things.

We often think that relationships become strong only with big surprises. But the truth is that:

• Waking up in the morning and saying “Good morning”
• Bringing his/her favorite snack while returning from office
• Complimenting him/her without any reason

Even these small things can bring back lost love.

I once advised my friend – “Just do one small thing every day, which reminds him/her that you are still the same.” In a few months, their relationship was back to normal.

Bring ‘newness’ in your relationship

Think, if you have the same food, same serial and same routine every day, then you will get bored, right? Relationships are also like this.

To keep love alive, it is important that you bring newness in it.

Sometimes suddenly plan a dinner outside.

Learn a new hobby together – dance, cooking or gym.

Take a small trip where it is just the two of you.

These new memories outweigh the old fights. If you keep adding new photos to the relationship file, then the old pages will start to look faded.

Bring change in yourself – because relationship is a two-way street

Often we want the other person to change. But the truth is that unless we ourselves try, the relationship cannot improve.

Think – do I take care of each other like before? Am I still as romantic as I was in the beginning? Have I started showing my anger more?

If yes, then why not start with yourself.

Control your anger.

Regain old hobbies.

Give time to yourself so that positivity is reflected in the relationship too.

Sometimes our small change changes the whole atmosphere of the relationship.